This is an honest question. Here is the problem. We know that we are saved because the fruit of God’s Spirit will begin manifesting through us. God is love; therefore, we should be filled with love if we have been truly saved (see Rom. 5:5). Think of this scenario. You are in Africa. A child is lying on the ground in front of you starving to death. You have food in your hand. You know God wants you to share the food with the dying child. So the question is, “Why can’t I have a good relationship with God, without sharing the food?” You have to answer that yourself.
Proverbs 10:21 The lips of the righteous feed many, But fools die for lack of wisdom.